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Observing

Saturday, July 24th, 2010

This blog and a few planned for the future have been inspired by a little book called “Mind” by John R Searle.

Fantastic in it’s provocation of ideas even if I don’t entirely agree with all it’s content.

It’s a whistle stop tour of various philosophical ideas of the mind featuring particularly on materialists vs dualists.

It can get a little bit introspective at times and the geek in me enjoys the logical loops; but we”ll leave that to another day. I much prefer to blog how specifically it can give the therapist an insight into how they work with people and the client or potential client an insight into how they can run their own lives.

One of the first things it got me thinking about is the difference between Observer Independent Phenomena and Observer Dependent Phenomena.

The former being anything that would happen without human behaviour or interaction. It’s the whole “If a tree fell down in an empty forest, does it still make a sound?”

The latter being anything that we’ve created in society or in our perceptions.

So what are examples of independent phenomena? Well gravity would happen whether we influence it or not, so would the solar system and photosynthesis.

So, what are observer dependent phenomena? These are essentially our social constructions. Our family, the Government, Money. Things that whilst they exist in most of our lives, would not happen if we didn’t create our perceptions of them either individually or within the small or larger community.

So, all very nice but how is this useful or helpful?

Well, when someone has a problem for instance.; Consider maybe they’re depressed, anxious or just not feeling as confident as they can be? How much of their problem is related to Observer Independent Phenomena and how much on Dependent Phenonema?

In the possible but unlikely event someone is anxious about gravity, or photosynthesis – you have a problem on your hands and that’s for another blog.

But how often do we allow ourselves in life to get hung up on  family issues? How often do we place anxiety within our relationship to someone or something? And the biggie, how often do we create a world of difficulties around money?

It doesn’t mean these things can just go away; but it does mean that when you start to consider that they were only observable dependent phenomena in the first place- you have a few more choices.

You could choose not to observe them.

This is the ‘bury your head in the sand’ approach that’s coveted by millions all over the world. It’s a great, economic and clever solution. There’s a problem, though. It rarely works for a long period of time.  It’s going to come back, sneak up and bite you some time. Sometimes not quite in the same form, but it will find a way.

A good example is someone who wants to lose weight. If they take the run away approach- sure, they’re not going to notice for a while their ‘problem’ but they’ll certainly notice if they run into health issues or self-esteem issues projected on them by other people in the long run.

So what else is there to do? Well we know they’re observable…so how about changing the way we observe them? We often talk about ‘positive thinking.’ This is one way of observing things differently. Again, though forcing a positive tint to everything can often be a little similar bury the head in the sand/run away approach.

So what’s left? Well we don’t have to positive think (all the time) but we could choose to think differently. If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got – so it’s time to do something different.

If it’s weight loss- maybe it’s to exercise more or change your relationship with food; for anxiety- working on what makes you anxious in the future and what’s worth your energy and time and for depression- sometimes it can be about reassessment of perceptions. Changing how we observe those dependent phenomena.

Isn’t it about time rather then you being dependent on them, they start to depend on you? After all, they only exist in your perception anyhow.

So maybe the real question is ‘If a tree falls in the forest and does or does not make a sound, how much does anyone care?’

And, how much time and effort do we all give to the things in life that are dependent and/or independent of us?

Zack Polanski is a Cognitive Hypnotherapist, Master Prac and New Code NLP Practitoner at 1 Harley St, London.

For more information, call on 07738088632 or e-mail info@zackpolanski.com

Wednesday, May 12th, 2010

It’s been a really interesting week.

Not just politically and not just because the weather has been going to and fro but a really common theme in everything that i’ve heard both with clients and the public around me is this idea of resolutions and compromise

Some of them have been the obvious stuff like ‘i want to lose weight,’ or ‘i don’t want to smoke anymore’ and some have been more unusual. I saw a father for his final (5th) session who’s final aim was to be more understanding with his children. And then interestingly, there was one lady who’d experienced a form of trauma and wanted to start this month by leaving it behind.

As always in my blogs, I checked that she didn’t mind me talking about it as long as I left her anonymous.

The abuse aside, looking forward to the future was a real moment for her. She’d never taken that time to really think about what she wanted. And the actual content of it, in the end, turned out not to matter- much more important and profound for her was the process of how she was going to get it and how she was going to divert around not getting what she’s not wanting.

We spoke on the phone, just an hour ago which prompted the blog entry- and she just said that she felt the hour together had really made an impact on her life.

The idea of “What makes us tick?”

Tony Robbins would suggest that there are several factors;

1) Certainty – Do you like surprises? Ha. Only the ones that you wanted. Everything else we label as a problem.

2) Uncertainty- What happens if you only had certainty in your life? You’d be bored, right?

3) Significance- We’re all striving for this in some way. Some do it through financial means, others by striving for intellectual precidence and others by meaning something to their partner. We often see it in youth through violence; if there’s no other way out, they can strive to cause damage to others.

4) Love/Connection- Everyone wants the first, but sometimes when we get scared; maybe we can just settle for the second. This is what Robbins suggests in his most recent book.

Whilst I think these are useful models, I think it’s important to take them for what they are- models. Ultimately, it has to be about what does the individual want?

So here’s the question?

What do you want in your life right now? Do you want to be free of that phobia? Not feel anxiety any more? Not to suffer from lack of confidence or insecurity?

And if any of those, what is it that you actually want?

Do you just need to feel ok? Or how about maybe, just maybe, you want to feel great?

Whatever it is, intentionally setting a conscious target can only point you in the right direction.

Zack Polanski is a Cognitive Hypnotherapist and NLP New Code Practitioner. For information prior to booking an appointment, call on 07738088632 or alternatively e-mail at info@zackpolanski.com

Tuesday, February 16th, 2010

This week has been a really interesting week of working with people; From seeing people with phobias, to anxiety disorders, addictions, depression and obsessive behaviour.

Something that’s really struck me about the work I do with people is their bravery. There are very few universals in the clients that I see- and everyone is very unique and different- but there’s something deeply touching about people’s wants, needs and desires to change. Often when people have come to see me, they’ve given up in the past and that’s how they’ve let their problem(s)/issue(s) get to a level where they really desire to make a change or they’re so keen to improve their lives from the state they feel they’re already in- that they go at it with full force.

I was reflecting on this when I read a passage last night from Irvin Yalom’s “The Gift Of Therapy” and there was a short passage which really struck a chord;

“Heddeger spoke of two modes of existence; the everyday mode and the ontological mode. In the everyday mode we are consumed with and distracted by material surroundings- we are filled with wonderment about how things are in the world. In the ontological mode we are focused on being per se- that is , we are filled with wonderment that things are in the world. When we exist in the ontological mode- the realm beyond everyday concerns- we are in a state of particular readiness for personal change.”

The key phrase I believe is the latter. Clients don’t usually get through my door until they’re already ready to begin to make that personal change- and being ready to make a difference in any aspect of your life often requires bravery.

The Catch 22 is that i’m not wholly sure if it’s the bravery that creates readiness or vice versa or if actually they’re both just fueling along. Ultimately, it doesn’t matter- the important part is the decision. Are you ready, and indeed brave enough, to make changes in your life?

Zack Polanski is a Cognitive Hypnotherapist at 1 Harley Street, London. W1G 9QD

The Lewis Clinic is a clinic of hypnotherapists working from the centre of London at Harley St, but also includes many clients from North, South, East and West.

Zack Polanski M.N.C.H (Lic) Dip CHyp HPD PNLP

Cognitive Hypnotherapist and NLP New Code Practitioner

1 Harley Street, W1G 9QD

Mobile: 07738088632

Email: info@zackpolanski.com