Posts Tagged ‘phobia’

Sunday, March 21st, 2010

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Whether it be a confidence issue, anxiety, a phobia, an addiction or something that you imagine i’ve never been asked before; i’m more then happy to have a chat to you on the phone or by e-mail and give you a realistic assessment of what I can do about it and how I can help.

Using hypnosis, NLP and cutting edge techniques from different therapies across the world, we can make huge difference and change in your life in a relatively brief amount of time.

Tuesday, February 16th, 2010

This week has been a really interesting week of working with people; From seeing people with phobias, to anxiety disorders, addictions, depression and obsessive behaviour.

Something that’s really struck me about the work I do with people is their bravery. There are very few universals in the clients that I see- and everyone is very unique and different- but there’s something deeply touching about people’s wants, needs and desires to change. Often when people have come to see me, they’ve given up in the past and that’s how they’ve let their problem(s)/issue(s) get to a level where they really desire to make a change or they’re so keen to improve their lives from the state they feel they’re already in- that they go at it with full force.

I was reflecting on this when I read a passage last night from Irvin Yalom’s “The Gift Of Therapy” and there was a short passage which really struck a chord;

“Heddeger spoke of two modes of existence; the everyday mode and the ontological mode. In the everyday mode we are consumed with and distracted by material surroundings- we are filled with wonderment about how things are in the world. In the ontological mode we are focused on being per se- that is , we are filled with wonderment that things are in the world. When we exist in the ontological mode- the realm beyond everyday concerns- we are in a state of particular readiness for personal change.”

The key phrase I believe is the latter. Clients don’t usually get through my door until they’re already ready to begin to make that personal change- and being ready to make a difference in any aspect of your life often requires bravery.

The Catch 22 is that i’m not wholly sure if it’s the bravery that creates readiness or vice versa or if actually they’re both just fueling along. Ultimately, it doesn’t matter- the important part is the decision. Are you ready, and indeed brave enough, to make changes in your life?

Zack Polanski is a Cognitive Hypnotherapist at 1 Harley Street, London. W1G 9QD

The Lewis Clinic is a clinic of hypnotherapists working from the centre of London at Harley St, but also includes many clients from North, South, East and West.

Never forget a face…

Monday, January 25th, 2010

Interesting article from the BBC today.

Particularly struck me as I have an interesting mix of different clients who come to see me.

A lot come because they are trying to get away from something- like a phobia for example, or anxiety. They don’t like something in their life which they’d much rather be rid of.

On the other hand though, I see a lot of people who just want to be ‘better at something.’ Whether it be performance enhancement of their confidence levels, a sports performance or an actor- they just want an improvement.

Isn’t it interesting how we often find human beings who have certain skills already and didn’t realise it was a skill until someone went out of their way to write an article about it?

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Many of us struggle sometimes to put a name to a face, but what if you could recognise someone many years after seeing them for a moment?

You know the woman crossing the street. But where from?

Ah, she was one of the volunteers staffing the polling station where you voted several years before. You probably saw her for a couple of minutes. Several years ago.

Sound like the kind of face you would place immediately?

It is for Jennifer. She is a “super recogniser”, someone with a significantly above average ability to place a face.

In fact, she can almost never forget a face. She first noticed something might be unusual on holiday with her family when she spotted a very minor actor on a plane. Her family were disbelieving but she was proved right.

But it really hit home at college that she was different from those around her.

“I’d meet so many people in the first few weeks and I’d remember everyone no matter how brief the encounter. I’d then meet them at a party and they wouldn’t remember me. I’d think: ‘That person is SO fake, I can’t believe they’re pretending they don’t remember me when we met for 30 seconds in the cafeteria three weeks ago.’”

Chance meeting

It doesn’t matter if years have lapsed since seeing them.

She describes seeing someone she saw a few times as child, on the subway, now over 20 years older with greying hair and dreadlocks and knowing exactly who she was.

“People can get older but their faces look the same to me,” says Jennifer. “They don’t look different to me whether they’re children or adults. I don’t know why my mind is able to make the leap.”

It sounds like a neat party trick, or perhaps something useful in business, but it may mean more than that to scientists.

Jennifer’s ability may help scientists who are investigating people in the opposite position, those who suffer from the condition prosopagnosia, popularly known as face blindness.

Claire, a 49-year-old mother of four, has the condition.

She contracted viral encephalitis in May 2004 and as well as severe memory loss she has struggled to recognise faces.

“I was discharged home to a family I couldn’t recognise, I had to believe they were my family. I had to believe Ed was my husband and tell myself he was the man I loved and that the children were my children.”

Claire continues to have problems with faces. She still can’t pick out which are her children if they’re with their friends. But she describes a recent triumph – picking out her husband Ed in a crowd. Yet she still has to use different strategies to recognise friends and family by.

Even her own reflection can catch her out if it takes her by surprise.

Challenging condition

Learning to live with the condition and work around it takes effort, and life remains difficult for Claire.

“It’s not easy trying to re-find myself in what feels like someone else’s life and the more sociable I’m becoming, the more challenging the prosopagnosia is. We take all the knowledge and information you get from someone’s face for granted.

“You don’t think about it how you’d feel if all that information was whipped off you. I wouldn’t wish it on anybody’

It may not be the case that there are only three groups of face recognisers, those with prosopagnosia, those who are “normal” and then the super recognisers.

Instead, there may be a spectrum of face recognition, says Brad Duchaine, of the Institute for Cognitive Neuroscience and University College London’s prosopagnosia research centre.

People like Claire have acquired prosopagnosia from damage to the brain. But there is another kind often less severe is called “developmental” prosopagnosia where someone has had the condition all their life.

And the condition is surprisingly common. As many as one in 50 people will be prosopagnosic but often they won’t know.

And at the other end of the spectrum scientists are beginning to study super recognisers, often establishing contact because of publicity about prosopagnosia.

They are just starting to understand the brains of the super recognisers by scanning their neural networks and working out what might be structurally or functionally different about their grey matter.

On standard tests of facial recognition, the super recognisers usually get full marks, but even if the faces are severely blurred they still get near to full marks, says recognition expert Prof Richard Russell, of Gettysburg College.

Chance encounters are remembered for years

“One of the most exciting implications of this work is that while we assume we all see the same things, this work suggests that at least in terms of looking at faces we don’t see the same things.

“Super recognisers are looking at the world in a different way than other people and it could be that this isn’t limited to looking at faces but other aspects of seeing the world. And we think it’s going to be a very helpful tool in helping understanding of how the mind and the brain work.”

While not suffering difficulties, like those with prosopagnosia, the super recognisers sometimes still choose to modify their behaviour.

Jennifer admits lying when asked whether she has met people before. Some would find it unsettling that someone remembers their face and name after a momentary encounter many years before.

Just walking around in the city can produce a tissue of recognition.

“It’s not necessarily every single person who’s walking by me in a rush of people on the street but if I notice someone then I will remember them

“I really don’t have to have an important interaction with people.”

Significantly, even if the faces have changed considerably they are still recognisable

“People can get older – for some reason their faces still look the same to me. My mind is able to make the leap.”

And certain sectors of society should try to avoid the super recognisers.

“I do always tell people that I think I would be the perfect witness for a crime,” Jennifer says.

What makes you tick?

Sunday, January 10th, 2010

It’s been a really interesting first week of 2010 listening to different people.

A really common theme in everything that i’ve heard both with clients and the public around me is the idea of resolutions.

Some of them have been the obvious stuff like ‘i want to lose weight,’ or ‘i don’t want to smoke anymore’ and some have been more unusual. I saw a father for his final (5th) session who’s final aim was to be more understanding with his children. And then interestingly, there was one lady who’d experienced a form of trauma and wanted to start 2010 by leaving it behind.

As always in my blogs, I checked that she didn’t mind me talking about it as long as I left her anonymous.

The abuse aside, looking forward to the future was a real moment for her. She’d never taken that time to really think about what she wanted. And the actual content of it, in the end, turned out not to matter- much more important and profound for her was the process of how she was going to get it and how she was going to divert around not getting what she’s not wanting.

We spoke on the phone, just an hour ago which prompted the blog entry- and she just said that she felt the hour together had really made an impact on her life.

The idea of “What makes us tick?”

Tony Robbins would suggest that there are several factors;

1) Certainty – Do you like surprises? Ha. Only the ones that you wanted. Everything else we label as a problem.

2) Uncertainty- What happens if you only had certainty in your life? You’d be bored, right?

3) Significance- We’re all striving for this in some way. Some do it through financial means, others by striving for intellectual precidence and others by meaning something to their partner. We often see it in youth through violence; if there’s no other way out, they can strive to cause damage to others.

4) Love/Connection- Everyone wants the first, but sometimes when we get scared; maybe we can just settle for the second. This is what Robbins suggests in his most recent book.

Whilst I think these are useful models, I think it’s important to take them for what they are- models. Ultimately, it has to be about what does the individual want?

So here’s the question?

What do you want for 2010? Do you want to be free of that phobia? Not feel anxiety any more? Not to suffer from lack of confidence or insecurity?

And if any of those, what is it that you actually want?

Do you need to feel ok? Or how about maybe, just maybe, you want to feel great?

Whatever it is, intentionally setting a conscious target can only point you in the right direction.

Zack Polanski is a Cognitive Hypnotherapist and NLP New Code Practitioner. For information prior to booking an appointment, call on 07738088632 or alternatively e-mail at info@zackpolanski.com

Zack Polanski M.N.C.H (Lic) Dip CHyp HPD PNLP

Cognitive Hypnotherapist and NLP New Code Practitioner

1 Harley Street, W1G 9QD

Mobile: 07738088632

Email: info@zackpolanski.com